How to put your future ahead of your past

We have our past present and our future.  The only one that we are in right now is the present. We can reflect on the past. Worry about it. Be concerned about it.  But there is no way we can change what is happened in our past.  The way we worry about our past and get stressed out about it is effecting our present and then our future. A simple way to look at past troubles We take away the negative emotions of the past so you can be comfortable in the present. Then you have the ability to go forward into the future with believability and focus. Of course, the past is very important in our lives.  Our past is full of experiences and valuable lessons.  There may be something or from the past that is still stressing you.  Whatever it was, it likely held a valuable lesson. It may be something you regret, or you have  been embarrassed about.  That’s not the point. The point is that you are very much wiser and informed and you will not go down that track again. The older we get, the more experiences and lessons we have in our lives. There is a saying “you can’t put an old head on young shoulders.”  When you are young, you tend to regard that statement as having no value. I think the older we get the less we seem to know. When you think you know all the answers, someone goes and changes the questions, right? Think of it like this You have a moth in a glass vase. Underneath the bottom...

How to be more present, even if you can’t let go of the past

The here and now The here and now is the only place that you are in, the only physical place you ever will be. It’s a basic fact and you can’t change it. The problem is that our mind is either worrying about what has happened in the past or worried about the future. Eckhart Tolle wrote a whole book on the power of now. I will help you to be in the here and now. Thinking about the past Much of our time we spend thinking about the past. What we have done what we would have liked to have done. It’s in the past. You can’t change it. There’s nothing you can do about it. The important point is that you have learned very valuable lessons and these lessons are there to help you in the present. They help you prepare for the future Even if something that has happened in the past has been disastrous or even horrendous, you have learned extremely valuable lessons that will help you in whatever you are doing in the present and prepare you for your future. Much of your time you are probably thinking about the future. Thinking about what is going to happen. Worrying, being concerned about how you can cope with it. When you are relaxed and comfortable in the present, the emotions of the past have gone and the future will look after itself. Your positive outlook shows Also if you are being bullied or intimidated, your positive body language will radiate out, people will leave you alone or just back off. You will be amazed by...

Let focus and belief guide you

The first thing I do with my clients is, fully explain hypnosis and what it really is.  A great number of people have a false belief of hypnosis, mainly because of hypnosis as an entertainment. It’s in the interests of the stage hypnosis to create a sense of mystery.  I take away that mystery. I can only help someone who wants to be helped.  I can only help the person in the way they want to be helped.  If I venture into an area where that  person is uncomfortable, the subconscious immediate rejects it.  I can’t control anyone, I do not want to control anyone.  I put them in control, in the area where they want to be in control. Hypnosis is perfectly safe.   The client has a problem.  I help take the negative emotion out of the past, balance the present, so they go into the future with believability and focus My mantra.Total believability and focus will take you to where ever you want to go.  The negative emotions of the past is like a break, a weight on the shoulders. A business has a work force. The group of employees can be the success or the failure of that business. Anyone of the employees, regardless of age or gender.  Who is being bullied, intimidated or lacks self esteem.  My downloadable recordings will help. There are several ways it will help.  Not only the individual employee, also the company.  Not only will the employee gain self esteem and self  respect.  The change in attitude of that employee will have a knock on effect on the rest of the...

ABCs of life: Attitude, Balance and Control

During our live meet many characters.  Some we admire some we don’t. I am probable considerably older than the majority of my followers of my weekly recording.   I have had the opportunity met many  people different ages and different walks of life.  I also know men who served in the forces in the second world war and  men who serves in the first world war. We can learn many lesions from them and the way they coped with the extreme circumstances they were in. Ido not intendto discuss the reasons of wars.  It’s a subject that would take a whole book.  One fact, there is no glamour in war. They are started by politicians and mainly fought by kids.  The majority of the lets be politically correct, person are in their late teens or early twenties. I know I was one of them.  Not the major war, one of the terrorists campaigns after the second world war.  Some of my later recording will be on the experiences during that period of my life.  I had plenty of lessons and experiences. I will tell you of two characters who I admire for their strength of character and their contribution.  Their ability to be in control under extreme circumstances.  What I focus on with  my clients is to be in control and be relaxed I will not use personal names I   will call my first character John.  Prior to the second  world war he was a test pilot.   This would be in the middle nineteen thirties.  Compared with modern day aircraft the plane in those day were primitive.  The saying goes...

Your past, present and future self

Much of our time we spend thinking about the past.  What we have done what we would have liked to have done.  It’s in the past you can’t change it, nothing you can do about it.  The important point, you have learned very valuable lessons, they are there to help you in the present,  prepare for the future. Even if something that has happened in the past has been disastrous or even horrendous.  You have learned extremely valuable lessons, that will help you in whatever you are doing in the present and prepare you for your future Much of your time you are probably thinking about the future.  Thinking what is going to happen, worrying, being concerned how you can cope with it.  When you are relaxed and comfortable in the present, the emotions of the past has gone, the future will look after its self.   Also if you are being bullied or intimidated, your positive body language will radiate out, people will leave you alone or just back off.  You will be amazed how your positive body language radiates out, with remarkable effects. It’s impossible to have your mind totally in the present.  It’s only natural for you mind will wander.   Some people their minds will wonder more than others. In fact letting your mind wonder into the future, may be day dreaming, is not a bad thing.  You are letting your imagination wonder and thinking about your goals. It’s   very useful to have a technique to help you stay in the present and remain there for longer periods.  Also helps you enjoy the present, because that is...

Addicted to Excess Alcohol, Gambling or Smoking?

Time to make a change to your life and take away the Stress & Anxiety My pre Christmas blog. I pride myself that I talk to my clients in reality not morality.  I also say to my clients, you have never made a mistake.  They always look back in disbelief, as much as to say, what a stupid question!  I then say, you have had lessons and experiences. If you have done something and it has gone really ‘pearshaped’, you come out of it as a much wiser person.  Mistakes are the stepping stones to success.  Or should I reword it and say, experiences are the stepping stones to success. My clients come to me for help when their life has gone out of balance and they are out of control, they have become addicted. That creates Stress and Anxiety in their lives.  If someone is addicted to smoking, drinking alcohol and gambling and they are not harming anyone, I personally can’t see a problem.  They have the right to do that. This message I think is applicable, especially during the festive season. You are going to enjoy a few drinks, go to the races have a flutter, play the poker machines. It’s when it gets out of control and you become unbalanced, that you have a problem, then stress and anxiety is created.  Notice I left out the cigarettes, cigarettes are additive, you are either a smoker or a none smoker. I have witnessed on several occasions, a person has quit smoking, even after several years, they just have one cigarette, they are back in the trap. Smoking, usually starts...