Anxiety of Quitting Smoking

Do You Want To Quit Smoking Now? Or Does This Thought Leave You With Feelings Of Anxiety? The majority of my clients who email or ring me use the word ‘quit’. The adverts on the TV always use the words ‘quit smoking’ for the same reason that I have just quoted. For me to help people, either male or female, the process is the same: first of all they must want to quit. I emphasise the word ‘they’. They are not doing it to please someone else. A typical example is when a wife wants her husband to quit smoking. Probably the conversation goes like this: “I’m going to get you off those stinking, filthy cigarettes. I’m going to ring that hypnotherapist Roland James. I’ve heard that he’s good. He got ‘so and so’ to quit. He will fix you.” She rings me and makes an appointment. It’s a waste of time. The husband really doesn’t want to give up, or he is not ready to. If she is ringing up on his behalf and he wants to quit smoking , that’s OK. I personally like to speak to the husband directly, or whoever wants to quit smoking. A few years ago I had the idea of printing out specialised ‘quit smoking’ business cards. They were professionally scripted and professionally printed. I decided to go to the entrance of shopping centres or office blocks. There would always be a smoker, hopefully several. I’d hand out my card. What a marvellous idea! Working on an average numbers game, I could hand out perhaps fifty per week, and hopefully would find two...

Wealth does not elevate Stress and Anxiety

Money Doesn’t Bring You Happiness This statement may be contrary to the average person’s belief. Just a quick a quote “Money doesn’t create happiness, you can be miserable in comfort” A large proportions of the population buy lotto tickets. They have this false dream of this huge win and all their problems will be solved.  All lotto ticket holders are potential million airs.   The odds are so great, they are the same as being struck by lightning. The majority of winners, it ruins their lives.  They are not accustomed to that amount of wealth, they can’t handle it, they blow the lot, end up with more stress and anxiety than they had before the win.  We dream of being financially secure.  We strive for that goal, I will admit I am in that category. What I want, this would relate to the majority. To have enough money to sustain a good quality of life and knowing we have the wealth to maintain it.  This we hope will give us peace of mind which we strive for.  Taking away all stress and anxiety.  I think this is fair comment. Going back to the original statement, “Money does not bring you happiness” I know a person who has everything.  Her husbands wealth creates and provides for all the needs and luxuries in excess.  A house which I will describe is a mansion.  With all modern conveniences plus domestic help.  When organising a dinner party it’s done by outside caterers.  The house is like a five star Villa in a sun drenched location, with maid service. All their holidays in five star plus hotels. ...

Empowering Women – Chapter 1

Blog No 1 Empowering Women My intention is to write a blog every two week.  What has happened on the National Scene, I strongly want to convey my thoughts. Also I would like comments and feedback. I have four daughters who are very precious to me and wonderful wife.  The team who have constructed my new website and maintain it are women.  The person who looks after my books is a woman. Everyone in my accountants office are women. Every one of these women I respect and they are all doing a wonderful job. Am I missing something or is there something I don’t understand? The Q & A program planted an individual, gave him the platform to speak with his opinion and belief.  Convicted criminal a terrorist and stating public rape of certain women journalists.  I am not advocating a political debate, just my views on the treatment of women. What I fail to understand, at least 50% may be more for the ordinance were female.  I didn’t actually watch the program so I assume that the same percentage applied to the panel. Why did his contribution get applause?  My personal view is that the vast majority of the female audience would have venomously reacted, to that sort of outrageous rhetoric. The abuse of women in the whole range of society, is a very hot topic.  It’s getting more and more attention, which it righty deserves. More than half of my clients are female, they come with a whole range of issues.    The initial reason may be smoking, weight reduction, drinking, may be gambling or general stress, trauma depression...