Personal contact in business reduces Stress

Personal contact in business reduces Stress Growing up I watched my father in business and the relationships he built, both professionally and personally. Now, in my own business, I realise that most of my best business connections are with people I already knew personally or they came from personal recommendations.  I grew up on a farm in England and farmed in my own right for over thirty years.  The agriculture merchants and other businesses that I did business with, I knew their representatives personally.  Not necessarily as close friends, but colleagues. One incident in particular comes to mind.  A sales rep of a new machinery company, which had just started up in the area, arrived at my door one day.  At that point I really didn’t need a new tractor, although I liked the idea of a new one.  The sales rep viewed my tractor, produced a quote for part exchanging of my tractor for a new one.   I was not completely conversed with the value of agriculture machinery.  I rang Philip a friend, who owned a machinery agency and told him of the quote. Phillip’s immediate reaction was, “take the deal quick and make sure you have all the extras”.   Phillip did not persuade me to deal with him and his own company; he missed out on a sale.  From then on, nearly all my machinery purchases were via Phillip’s company.  I knew I had service reliability, mutual trust.  The same applied to all the agriculture merchants, who I purchased fertilisers and concentrated feed for the pig enterprise.  I was not a ‘shopper’ as such, trying to squeeze the...

The Power of Positive Thought Takes Away Stress and Anxiety

The Power of Positive Thought Takes Away Stress and Anxiety All we are, are thoughts and beliefs.  Thoughts are more powerful than words.  Some of my blog readers may have difficulty in agreeing with that statement.  In my therapy room I tell my   clients there is more happening than we can see, feel, taste, smell and hear.  I call it the ‘universal energies’.  In one of my previous blogs I told the story of the lady who had not seen her son for over two years and had a grandchild that she had never seen.  When she was in a hypnotic state she talked to him and he talked back.  The son came to see her the following week.  That is not an isolated incident.  This helped her to take away the stress and anxiety which was having an effect on her general health. Thought forms travel.  The last session of the Richards Process is putting positive thought out into the universe.  Positive thoughts: positive things happen, taking away the stress and anxiety.   Negative thoughts: negative things happen, creating stress and anxiety The Power of Positive Thought Takes Away Stress and Anxiety All we are, are thoughts and beliefs.  Thoughts are more powerful than words.  Some of my blog readers may have difficulty in agreeing with that statement.  In my therapy room I tell my   clients there is more happening than we can see, feel, taste, smell and hear.  I call it the ‘universal energies’.  In one of my previous blogs I told the story of the lady who had not seen her son for over two years and...

Making Miracles: when they happen stress dissipates

Making Miracles: when they happen stress dissipates I have a very powerful affirmation. More and more each and every day I have the feeling and experience of being in the right place at the right time. This is a very powerful affirmation.  You can be in the right place at the wrong time or you can be in the wrong place at the right time. Many years ago I was staying with my daughter and her family in Minneapolis. They were visiting the local library – they are all avid readers.  The library was giving away old books that were taking up space.  My grand-daughter and wife picked up ‘Making Miracles’ by Dr Paul C Roud. Probably can’t buy it now. It was published years ago and is now out of print.  They thought that I, being a hypnotherapist, would be interested in it.  It turned out to be one of the most valuable books I possess. Basically, because of its principles, total focus and believability, it will take you wherever you want to go.  When this happens, stress and anxiety dissipate. This is the Mantra of Jack Mason whose workshops I attended in Indianapolis The author studied the case and followed (I think) six or seven different people. As it is several years since I read the book, I can’t quote the exact details. These people had terminal illnesses and the medical profession had done all they could. They were different ages, different sexes and from different walks of life.  They were a good cross section of society.  Doctor Roud followed them for, I think, five or six...

A Rigid, Moral Society Creates Stress, Anxiety and Trauma

How Our Busy Lifestyles Can Cause Stress, Anxiety and Trauma The regular reader of my blogs will have picked up the theme of many of them that they are based on my past experience in life. I am not claiming to have had a good life or a perfect life.  I have had many lessons and experiences.  Remembering the first tractor on the farm, right up to high tech machinery loaded with computers.  The farm worker doing mainly manual work, up to being trained to operate high tech and expensive machinery. What I am now writing about is the English class society and how it creates stress and anxiety and can lead to trauma. Over the years – mainly since the end of World War II – it has changed but it is still there.  The upper class or gentry – there are many ways to describe them – are born into a rigid way of life.  I am probably quoting the extreme.  When they are born, especially the boys, they are booked into a public school.  It is really a private school but known as a ‘public’ school.  The father has been to that school, the grandfather has been to that school and also the great-grandfather.  Prior to that predetermined school, they go to a preparatory school known as a ‘prep’.  All this creates stress and anxiety, as they are obliged to keep up a certain standard: it is expected of them.  They then move on to the main school where they have these rigid, high standards.  Not all of them can cope and the stress builds up. They...

Perfection and Confidence eliminates Stress and Anxiety

Perfection and Confidence eliminates Stress and Anxiety This little story is a period in my life going back over sixty years. The lessons are still applicable today.  It relates to perfection and accepting new ideas and new methods. Today we live in fast changing society, any one that ignores this fact, is left behind. The readers of my blogs may have picked up the fact, my backgrounds was in the farming field.  I was born on a farm and except for the period of my life serving with British Royal Marines.  I worked on the farm my father owned, farmed in my own right for thirty years.  I haven’t had a sea change I have had an oceans change.   The reason for the change is another story, it would take up several blogs.  It would be full of lessons and experiences.  Your comment on them, may lead to the conclusion, I’m a slow learner.  It was full of stress, anxiety and frustration. This was back when my father was alive. It was what is described as a mixed farm. Meaning sheep cattle and various crops.  The sheep contingent was relatively small.  There is a lot of work managing a flock of sheep. Especially at shearing time.  My father hired an outside contractor to shear the sheep.  The man shearing the sheep had shorn sheep all his working life, he was considered reasonably efficient.  He worked relatively stress free.  My job was lapping up the wool and being generally useful.  To give the shearer a break I lent a hand to shear the odd sheep.  I was basically inefficient and...

Tact and Diplomacy take away Stress and Anxiety

Tact and Diplomacy take away Stress and Anxiety In one of my previous blogs I wrote about having a role model. Here I want to elaborate on that theme.  My very good friend, who I would like to emulate, is an excellent communicator.  He has progressed in life from arriving in England to work and learn the English language.  His journey has taken him to retiring in a beautiful part of the world: five thousand feet up in the tropics, enjoying eternal spring.  To achieve that, he obviously has an exceptional business acumen, plus as I’ve mentioned, he is an excellent communicator.  He would not have achieved this on just business ability alone, he is also relatively stress free. He speaks in a relatively quiet voice, he does not use foul language, he does not tell sexist jokes and never criticises. He has an amazing ability to communicate, it’s a pleasure to be in his company.  When he is in the company of others, he has of being interested in the other person. He does not try to exploit his achievements, which are many. There are two kinds of people who reach the top. One is the person who is demanding, aggressive and verging on being a bully. The other is the complete opposite; the person who has tact and diplomacy. They are both successful.  Both have business acumen plus leadership skills.   In my opinion there is a big difference.  The demanding, aggressive person is probably stressed out, probably over weight and quite a heavy drinker – a health time bomb.  This is my opinion and I am generalising.  If he...